Unconditional love...

To say, it is a love without any strings attached and selfless.

It is about acceptance. It doesn’t associate with outward appearance, supports the other person by always being there and doesn’t go away even when circumstances are bad or difficult. 

It can be understood as without any reservations, without judgements, caring about the happiness of the other person without expecting anything in return and putting the needs of the other person first. 

Although, few situations lead to disagreements, it does not lead to resentments, as there is an openness to communicate one’s opinions without any fear. 

                                        

As it is the human tendency to take it for granted whatever one receives, even unconditional love becomes dangerous for the person who is showering love on other person by compromising and forgiving. 

To tackle this kind of situation, setting few boundaries, one can pave way for the healthy unconditional love. They include communicating clearly, not giving up on one’s identity, giving importance to one’s self esteem and placing enough weightage on one’s freedom of choice. 

And, to conclude on unconditional love, it is like experiencing happiness by just doing things instead of expecting. 

Receiving love and experiencing happiness has a lot of difference.  

Love based on physical consciousness makes us empty instead of filling us and giving us a feeling of fulfillment. 

Love based on soul consciousness is a love that does not attach itself to the other so much, to bring sorrow when it is not received or when the love is no longer available to us. This happens when the other person leaves us or stops talking to us or goes away or does not love us anymore for some reason or the other. 

So, choosing what type of love we show towards others might bring us more understanding about ourselves which will further enhance our ability to deal with others.

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Get to know one's personality type

Myers-Briggs Personality Type

Way to identify the personality type of the person, his/her strengths, and preferences in life.

Based on the set of questions and answers to it, one’s personality type can be assessed.

So, here we go, choose your response, and pick the letter corresponding to that set of questions if you agree.

The questions fall under four categories which are described below.

1.     Are you outwardly or inwardly focused?

Extroversion

• Talkative, outgoing.

• Prefer fast paced environment

• Work out ideas with others.

• Enjoy being the center of attention.

Introversion

• Reserved, private.

• Prefer slower pace with time for contemplation.

• Think inside your head.

• Observe rather than being the center of attention.

 2.   How do you prefer to take in new information?

Sensing

• Focusing on the real picture of the things.

• Paying attention to concrete facts and details.

• Prefer practical applications of ideas.

• Being specific in describing things.

Intuition

• Imagining the possibilities of things.

• Noticing the big picture and how everything connects.

• Prefer ideas as they are.

• Describing things in a figurative way.

3.   How do you prefer to make new decisions?

   Thinking

• Logically decide and not consider personal things.

• Giving importance to justice and fairness.

• Finding flaws in the argument.

• Reasonable and level-headed in the process of deciding.

   Feeling

• Considering personal things and how one’s actions affects others.

• Giving importance to forgiveness and harmony.

• Pleasing manner and seeing the best in people.

• Warm and empathetic.

 4.  How do you prefer to live your outer life?

    Judging

• Keeping matters settled.

• Respecting rules and deadlines.

• Follow detailed and step-by-step instructions.

• Planning and knowing what is happening.

    Perceiving

• Leaving options open.

• Flexible with rules and deadlines.

• Make and improvise as you go on.

• Spontaneous and happy with new things.

Now, you would have got four letters from the above four questions. 

Check your overall personality type in the table given below.

 

Smile, it's free therapy... 

 

 

 

 

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A friend, what comes to your mind when you hear this word?

One line would be someone whom we are fond of talking to or spend time with.

Usually, he/she is someone apart from a family member, with whom you share a good bond, which might be fun, compassion, empathy, or maybe few common interests with them.

 

Seldom, friendships are formed among unexpected people and in uncertain circumstances.  Whatever it may be, there is a belief that we meet people for a reason and meeting transforming into friendships has got to teach us something.

 

As heard from people, few turn out to be good friends or bad friends. Good or bad friends, it is the name that we give for our interactions and conversations that we had with them which tells good or bad, and not about the person to be specific.

Few friends are the casual type like you could share some interests with them, talk sometimes but it not deep friendship as it was to be. Few others are more close like you spend time with them whenever you can, experience ups and downs and yet remain as good friends of yours. Sometimes it happens like two of you won’t talk for some time, but once started again, it feels like you have never been so apart. You feel secure in such friendships.

 

Few friends help us to improve our emotional well-being, with whom although you never recognized them as close as other friends. Such friendships are born at the time when your emotions are taken care of rather than mere situations.

Few of such bonds would have started with defining moments that were profound. 

Few others its smaller gestures that make a difference like who talks when you need someone to talk to, who listens to us patiently without judging, and someone who can finish your sentences and vice versa. 

There should exist clear communication and mutual trust between friends, which forms a basis for a long-lasting friendship.

These interactions with others make us feel good about ourself, enhances our self-esteem,  keeps our mind sharp, and in a way push us forward in life to take challenges as they come.

 

We should try to seek good in others and be respectful in each interaction. Remember that we don’t know which good friends that we make today will turn out to be a friend for life.

 

Similarities exist as well as differences between friends, that’s what helps in keeping the bond alive.

How much ever we get busy with life, taking out time for the ones who made us smile when we needed one, are referred to as friends maybe.

 

Friends, old or new, will continue to shape us into our better selves. It is a thing to be cherished and kept for a lifetime.

To end, Sometimes friends grow apart, changing life paths, and dimensions, so do everyone, all come and go, keep on good terms till you have got one.

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Dream, small info on it…

Have you ever dreamed about something like people you have known in life, a place you are very familiar with, some incident that disturbs your mental peace, meeting an unknown person, or exploring a far distant place?

Of course, all of us dream, that’s a natural phenomenon that happens with everyone. Sometimes dreams give us a good feeling which refreshes our life or a bad feeling which keeps us pondering over why such a dream occurred.

Have you ever wondered why such dreams occur, and what are they trying to convey to us?

After googling and from my own experience, I have understood few thoughts about dreams and their relevance in our life, and being aware of them can change how we look at things.

Firstly, dreams are our thoughts manifested through our subconscious mind. Dreams convey about our existing situation in our lives and speak about what we are going through.

Each dream says something and is important. Although we can’t comprehend the same all time, we can assume that our mind is a mystery to be solved.

Dreams help us to process emotions. Whatever we see or experience in it might not be real, but the emotions attached to it are for certain, real. Usually, they are the results of our wishes and thoughts suppressed in our subconscious mind.

Dreams try telling us something, mirrors our subconscious mind, and have links to suppressed wishes and desires which we can’t achieve in our consciousness.

Things that occur in dreams are thoughts which concern you or are afraid of. They are the result of your thinking which was left halfway through, but at the same time, which was bothering you (but never through your active mind). As our active mind rests while sleep time, so these thoughts appear as dreams.

Almost, all dreams are the manifestations of our subconscious mind that we encounter during the course of activity. Though we do different and various different activities throughout the day, the strongest action does make an impression on our mind which invariably plays out as a dream while sleeping.

To conclude, when we think about something or some situation over and over and for quite a lot of time, there is a  probable chance that we are going to dream about it, the result of a subconscious thought process.

A quote to end with, “So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable.”

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Coping up with life in an effective way...

Life tends to go on as we go on with our daily routine works. Whatever stage of life you are in now, one has things to do, at least to take care of your family by providing what they need by doing what you can do.

You can play a major role in that process of fulfilling your responsibilities or a minor role, but your contribution is what makes a difference if one appreciates your presence or your doing.

Sometimes, life tends to surprise us with new and unexpected situations. For example, like the one which we are now in, or concerning our health or in our relationships which can make us feel stressed, anxious, unable to find a direction in life and be lost. 

In such a situation, we tend to worry about how to deal with the situation or how to go about the situation, things to do to resolve the situation, or steps to find a solution for the unexpected event that has occurred. In the end, we have to feel good about ourselves and we should have control over our life.

Few among us are optimistic enough to take life as it comes, with ups and downs as a challenge and in a sportive way. But everyone has got their saturation point, where one gets into worrying too much about the situation he or she is in. 

It is important to know that you are not alone in this journey of life and be aware that others are also living life like yours and have the same 24 hours as you got but with different sets of circumstances and problems to deal with.

By having a positive approach towards life, one can overcome any difficulty which life throws at us. 

How we get two different perspectives from two different people, we should try to see things in a different way with different lenses. Life is what we see through our lens and we should keep our lens as broad as possible for an enlarged view and in a way, a better way to deal with problems.

Just remember, there are ways to get things done and remove yourself from a worried state, lead a better life with confidence and grow as a person and make others grow along with you.

Let us know how can one achieve it:

• Firstly, learn to accept that life is unexpected and things are not in our control. One good and effective way to get this acceptance thing to register in our mind is by remembering this sentence as known as The Serenity Prayer, which is, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”

• Don’t jump for immediate solutions. By doing this, we tend to ignore the root cause of the problem and find solutions for things that are secondary to the problem at hand.

• Challenge the situation. This can be achieved by keeping one’s attitude strong.

• Look for ideas to help the situation.

• Don’t lose your temper. Control your emotions, as it goes out of your bounds. Try counting 1 to 10, be calm for some time, take a quick break or change your environment.

• Focus on the situation at hand, don’t try to accomplish everything at once.

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Oranges - Let us know how to peel off & eat; along with its benefits.

Ever heard of that name, it’s a fruit that helps us to boost our immunity levels and lowers the risk of diseases.

In this lockdown time, one day I felt very tired, couldn’t continue my routine life, and coincidently, all my family members were affected with some or other illness like headache, cough, cold, backache, and tiredness to do mundane things.

When we all went to the doctor, he suggested, we take Vitamin C tablets and a few others for being sick. As per the doctor's suggestion, we took tablets, and now all of us are doing well by God’s grace.

We can't swallow tablets for life long right, so we should take some foods or fruits which shall help us to avoid taking those tablets.

So, after googling the foods which contain Vitamin C, orange fruit stands out from the crowd.

Now, Oranges can't be eaten like an apple, by just cutting into pieces or like a grape, by just putting it into your mouth.

Oranges, their outer layer is supposed to be peeled off, separate into pieces, and by opening the thin layer covering each piece, and then remove if any seed or seeds are present and then have it, but not completely, just extract the juice in case it is not peeled properly. If peeled properly, you can chew it completely.

Now, let us see how to peel off the outer layer of any orange so that we can enjoy the fruit to its full benefit.

One requires a knife and an orange to start off with.

Take an orange, make a small gentle circular shape cut on the outer layer (not deep enough) by using a knife on top and bottom of it, and then remove it.

Now, let us make a similar gentle cut on sides from top till the bottom of the orange. And, one can make similar circular cuts around the orange. 

Now, we can start removing the outer layer from the place where cuts are made.

Continue this process, till the orange’s outer layer is completely peeled off. 

Now, from the top of the orange, hold it in a way so that you won’t squeeze it, and then separate it into slices by holding it gently so that texture and juice is not going to be spoiled or wasted respectively.

Let’s see another way to peel the outer layer of orange.

Take warm water and dip an orange in it.

Let it be for a minute or so.

Now, we can see that the outer layer will easily peel off without using a knife. 

So, by following the above steps, one can eat oranges in an easy and effective way.

One can have orange as it is (after peeling though), or in the form of juice, or make it a smoothie along with other fruits, or can be added to a salad. 

Let us know a bit more about oranges and its benefits -  It is rich in antioxidants and high in fiber content.

So, let us experience having this delicious, tangy and sweet orange fruit :-)

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Lines worth reading...

Here we go,

How do we identify ourselves?

By our name, origin, work we do, good or wrong deeds, likes, dislikes etc. the list goes on...

Whatever we may choose according to one's mindset about life, anything chosen becomes just a part of us and doesn't stand out alone. 

We can find good, bad and ugly in us, what do we keep then, good? And throw bad and ugly?

Everything is part of us; good, bad or ugly.

As light is not known without darkness, one should accept flaws along with one's good traits.

While the focus remains on only one thing, acceptance of life becomes quite non-realistic.

Acceptance of things is mere necessity for a peaceful life, and it transforms our living boundaries to a vibrant one. 

By changing our lens with which we see things and make judgements, broader perspective can be achieved which tends to give us a sense of acceptance for whatever life puts us through. 

Punish the sin, and not the sinner.

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